She has a close friend she’s been connected with for nearly ten years, and next summer, her friend’s wedding will be a highlight event.
Naturally, her friend invited her to join the bridal party as a bridesmaid, and she was thrilled to accept the offer.
While planning, she inquired whether her friend preferred a traditional wedding gift or would appreciate assistance in another way.
As a vocalist in a wedding band, I’ve previously performed pro bono for friends and family. We even agreed to play a set in return for a meal,” she shared.
Her friend was ecstatic to receive a performance as a wedding gift. However, at the engagement party, tensions escalated, leading to a heated argument with the fiancé.
She was quickly removed from the bridal party, and as a result, her friend also informed her that she was no longer welcome as a guest at the wedding.
She wasn’t concerned about this, knowing that she couldn’t pretend to be thrilled for her friend at the wedding.
She correctly assumed that her friend would prefer not to have her perform on her special day or go out and buy a gift.
Imagine her shock when her friend mentioned that she had “booked” her for a performance at the wedding, expecting her to sing. To add to the surprise, her friend insisted that this performance should be provided free of charge.
“I explained to her that we offer our services at no cost exclusively to friends and family. Even then, they are responsible for covering our travel, accommodation, and meal expenses during the event,” she stated.
“If she requires our services, the usual fee will apply as we are not personal friends. We have availability to handle the wedding, but it will not be complimentary. Since then, she has spoken negatively about us to all our mutual acquaintances.”
“Some believe that to maintain harmony, we should fulfill our promises as agreed. Am I in the wrong for not wanting to give a costly gift to someone who no longer sees me as a friend?”
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