Next fall, a 27-year-old man will celebrate his upcoming wedding with his 25-year-old fiancée. After five years of dating, they envision a bright and fulfilling future together.
They enjoy successful careers, have numerous shared interests, and a wide circle of mutual friends. Although his fiancée is a wonderful person, she has an intense fear of insects that is quite extreme.
He has consistently demonstrated understanding and support for her fear of worms and spiders, going above and beyond to show empathy for her phobia.
One evening, he and his fiancée relaxed at a friend’s house, spending time on the back patio. They enjoyed roasting marshmallows, sipping on drinks, and engaging in lively conversation.
“I woke up in the emergency room, where she was crying and recounting what had transpired,” he said.
She noticed a harmless spider on my forehead, which I hadn’t even felt, and panicked. In her haste, she grabbed a flimsy metal container holding a citronella candle and repeatedly struck my forehead—about five times—until she was convinced the spider was no longer there.
As a result, I suffered 8 staples, internal brain injuries, and second-degree burns across my face. Six months have passed since the incident, and although the burn scars have diminished, they remain somewhat visible.
He eventually discovered that his friend had been the one to take the candle from his fiancée’s hand while his wife called 911.
According to his friend, the situation unfolded suddenly and unexpectedly, with paramedics arriving at the scene in under 10 minutes.
Neither his friend nor his friend’s wife ever noticed any spider or bug on his face, contrary to what his fiancée claimed. Upon realizing the extent of the harm she had caused, his fiancée became frantic and appeared to have no memory of her actions that resulted in his serious injuries.
Nevertheless, she was well aware of the events, as she detailed the entire story to him while he rested in the hospital bed.
His fiancée clearly expressed regret. However, after reflecting on her actions and discussing the situation with his family and friends, he realized that ending the engagement was the best course of action.
His friend, who intervened by taking the candle from his fiancée, was also the one who persuaded him to end the relationship.
When he ended the engagement, he made it clear that he wasn’t blaming his fiancée. Instead, he expressed concern about the possibility of experiencing a similar situation in the future.
After the difficult discussion, his former fiancée made a fervent effort to persuade him to change his mind.
She walked away six months ago, and since that incident where she hurled the citronella candle at his face, he hasn’t seen or heard from her.
He noted that while she had always been anxious around insects, her reaction that day was uncharacteristically violent. ‘She had never reacted like this before, and there was no sign she was drunk. We were at the home of close friends, which makes her behavior even more perplexing,’ he said. ‘I don’t understand why it happened, but it has left a lasting impact on me.’
He misses her greatly and is now questioning whether ending the relationship was the right choice. What’s your perspective on this situation?
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