By year’s end, a 25-year-old woman and her 28-year-old fiancé are eagerly anticipating their upcoming wedding. The couple is excited about their special day and the journey down the aisle together.
When she was just 13 years old, her mother left her and her father for another man. This unexpected departure shattered their lives, leaving both her and her dad feeling like their entire world had crumbled.
“She didn’t just walk away; she severed all connections with us, relocated to another city, and began a new life with a fresh family.”
“She remarried and had a daughter named Lily, who is now 12 years old. Since her departure, my mother hasn’t made any effort to contact me, not even on special occasions like birthdays or holidays. It felt as though she had completely erased me from her life.”
“Raising me on his own was a significant challenge for my dad, and it was an uphill battle. I often felt neglected and hurt, especially as I watched my mom appear to thrive with her new family. Although I made efforts to move forward as I grew older, I still struggled with letting go of the resentment towards her.”
Three years ago, her mother reached out unexpectedly. She expressed regret for having left her daughter behind and wanted to reconnect.
Her mother mentioned that she had named her Lily and expressed a desire for them to build a meaningful bond.
She responded to her mom politely but maintained a clear distance. Over the years, she met Lily several times. Although the little girl is kind, she has chosen not to build a relationship with her.
Her deep-seated resentment towards her mother is preventing her from wanting to be involved with Lily.
Since she began actively planning her wedding, her mom has become involved in the process.
“She inquired about having Lily as a flower girl and whether she could play a part in the ceremony,” she mentioned. “I had to decline.”
I want to keep my mom and Lily out of the wedding plans. This day is meant to be a joyful celebration for me and my dad, who has been my steadfast support throughout. My mom was quite distressed when I shared this decision with her.
“She criticized me for being self-centered and stuck in the past. According to her, Lily was not involved in the situation, and excluding her would be unjust. She also suggested that including Lily was an opportunity for a fresh start as a family and argued that my actions were denying Lily the chance to connect with me.”
Her father supports her decision to exclude Lily from her special day, but some family members are encouraging her to reconsider.
Some family members believe that weddings are an opportunity for forgiveness and moving past past grievances, encouraging her to let go of any lingering issues related to her mother.
She expressed her concern, saying, ‘There’s a belief that I’m unfairly blaming Lily for an issue she didn’t create. However, I can’t help but worry that bringing them into this situation could overshadow what should be one of the most joyful days of my life.’
She questions whether it’s wrong to keep Lily away from her wedding, especially since her mother left her to start a new family and raise the little girl.
What do you think?
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