This 34-year-old man and his 35-year-old wife have shared their life for 12 years, including 8 years of marriage.
Starting in March, he began to notice a change in her behavior—she became noticeably distant. Additionally, he observed several other troubling signs in their relationship.
He couldn’t resist the urge to investigate further and ended up diving into some sleuthing. In other words, he began his own covert search.
This discovery revealed that his wife had been unfaithful, engaging in an affair with a colleague from her workplace.
“He initially experienced it as an emotional response before it turned into a physical one,” he clarified.
Despite discovering her infidelity, he chose not to confront her about it. Instead, he continued to maintain a facade of normalcy in their relationship, acting as if everything was perfectly fine.
Despite continuing to enjoy regular date nights and engaging in shared activities, he began to gather evidence of his wife’s infidelity during this period.
Additionally, he mentioned collaborating with his attorney to finalize the necessary filings and manage financial matters behind the scenes.
For approximately four months, the situation continued, culminating in him filing for divorce without his wife being aware of it.
Last week, she received the divorce papers, prompting him to take decisive actions. He promptly canceled their joint credit cards, withdrew 50% of the funds from their shared savings account, and was fully ready for the separation. Meanwhile, his wife was left stunned by the sudden turn of events.
She reportedly broke down in tears and attempted to discuss the divorce with him. However, he remained calm and unresponsive, showing no sign of emotion.
Honestly, I’ve been secretly shedding tears on some nights since I found out about her affair, and it’s painful. I’ll stick with it until the end,” he expressed
Since he shared his decision to file for divorce with his friends, their reactions have been mixed. Some feel that he should have informed his wife of his intention to separate beforehand, allowing her time to emotionally prepare.
He now questions whether filing for divorce without first addressing his wife’s infidelity with her was the right decision.
Should he have informed his wife about the divorce filing, or did her infidelity forfeit her right to be notified?
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