Many people consider it a major etiquette mistake to try on a bride’s wedding dress before her big day.
The dress carries significant symbolism, and wearing it can clearly signal disrespect.
28-year-old woman has a close friend, Ally, who is also 28 and is about to get married.
She’s incredibly excited for Ally’s upcoming special day, especially considering the many challenging relationships Ally has endured in the past.
Ally has evidently found her perfect match, and her fiancé is a truly remarkable person who treats her with the utmost care and respect.
A few weeks back, Ally got her wedding dress, and she invited me over to assist her with trying it on.
When she reached Ally’s apartment, Ally had prominently displayed the wedding box and insisted that she try on the dress immediately.
“I expressed my concerns about trying on her wedding dress, explaining that I wasn’t comfortable with the idea because I didn’t want to risk any damage to such an important garment,” she explained.
“She entered their bedroom and returned holding the dress. I thrilled her by complimenting its beauty and expressing my eagerness to see her wearing it.”
Ally suggested that I try it on first, but I expressed my hesitation because I worried about potentially causing any damage.
Ally appeared disheartened as she confessed her curiosity about how the dress would look on her. When pressed for more details, she explained that she probably wouldn’t have the chance to wear it and believed she would look stunning if she did.
Though it might sound harsh, Ally’s remarks weren’t intended to offend. She had been trapped in a toxic relationship with a domineering partner, and since ending that relationship four years ago, she has not pursued any new romantic connections.
She frequently tells Ally that marriage shouldn’t be an obligatory aspect of life. However, she remains open to the idea if she encounters a partner who truly values it.
Let’s return to Ally’s wedding dress. Ally was insistent that she put it on, even going so far as to physically direct her toward the bathroom to change into it.
She twirled around, accidentally stepping on Ally’s dress, and didn’t notice when Ally’s dog-chewed, splintered door frame caused her to collide with it.
Her scratched leg, causing it to bleed, and then showed Ally the wound. She used the injury as an excuse to avoid putting on the dress.
Ally mentioned she had band-aids stored under the sink before closing the door behind her. She applied one and attempted to put on Ally’s wedding dress. However, the dress didn’t fit her properly, which was causing her to delay.
“Ally’s size is about 5 to 6 sizes bigger than mine, depending on the brand,” she explained. “Although her dress is beautiful, it didn’t suit me.”
“I told Ally through the bathroom door that the outfit was lovely and that I was planning to take it off. Before I had the chance to finish, Ally opened the door and looked at me. Her disappointment was clear, though I chose not to comment on it.”
Ally decided to remove the dress before exiting the bathroom, so she swiftly changed out of it.
Once she left the bathroom, she saw Ally seated on the couch with her back turned. Ally didn’t acknowledge her until she handed over the dress.
She invited Ally to lunch, but Ally declined. When she suggested hanging out instead, Ally still chose to pass.
“I inquired if I had done anything wrong, and she reassured me that I hadn’t. She’s been under a lot of pressure with the wedding preparations. I thought she might prefer to handle those tasks on her own,” she explained.
When I got home that evening, I receive a series of texts from her expressing her disappointment: “I’m really upset that you weren’t honest about the dress. You told me it looked nice, but it actually didn’t suit you.” I reply, “I do believe the dress is pretty, even if it doesn’t flatter me. I apologize for not being truthful – I should have admitted it didn’t look good on me.”
She hasn’t replied yet, although she has seen the text message. What steps should I take to address this issue? At the moment, I’m giving her space to cool down, but I’m unsure if I should do more.
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